Help Is Not a Four Letter Word: When Doing It All is Doing You In
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It’s great to be self-sufficient, isn’t it?
Not if it’s costing you your sanity. Okay, so you’re responsible, hard working, and independent. But you’re also stressed out, overwhelmed, and reluctant to ask anyone for help. Why should you? You’re perfectly capable of juggling work, family, and other obligations all by yourself, thank you very much. But ask yourself-and be honest: Are you constantly trying to “do it all,” all by yourself? Do you avoid delegating work because you don’t trust others to “do it right”? Are you afraid you’ll look weak if you ask someone for help? If you answered yes to any of these questions, you could be suffering from Self-Sufficiency Syndrome–and you might be heading for major burnout. The good news is: Help Is Not a Four-Letter Word. This groundbreaking new book by professional speaker Peggy Collins will show you how to recognize the signs, ease the demands you put on yourself, and… More >>
Help Is Not a Four Letter Word: When Doing It All is Doing You In
Professional speaker and trainer Peggy Collins confesses that she, like many accomplished and successful people who relish playing hero, has suffered from something she calls “Self-Sufficiency Syndrome.” Collins took on so many responsibilities that she nearly dropped from exhaustion and stress. This book explains the strategies she used to overcome unhealthy self-reliance and achieve greater balance in her personal and professional life. With help from writer Deborah Saverance, Collins weaves her own experiences and workshop materials with insights from other psychologists and authors. Although the book would have benefited from a broader range of case studies and examples, Collins’ gentle approach and positive framing of the problem and its solutions make this an encouraging and thought-provoking read. getAbstract recommends this book for superstar employees risking burnout, entrepreneurs whose careers are stalled because they’re reluctant to delegate or network, individuals struggling with co-dependency, and anyone who promises more than he or she can comfortably deliver.
This book is an eye opener for me.All this time i thought it was just me,and now I discover there are many more who can’t seem to ask for help.Ms.Collins’ book is insightful and funny.The exercises in the back of the book are helping me learn how to live in a whole new way.I would highly recommend this book to anyone who is so self sufficient that they’re drowning in it,as I was.Thank you Peggy!!!
As as “Do it all myself” person I often found myself spinning my wheels, and getting overwhelmed with so much to do. While reading the book, “Help Is Not a Four Letter Word” I realized how seldom I asked for help. I also learned that when I ask someone to help, I am also creating a closer relationship with that person, and making that person feel important and useful. Wow! I never realized that before.
I have added something that makes me feel better about asking for help. I tell people that it is OK for them to say “No” to my request and that it won’t hurt my feelings. With that said, I ask for the favor.
Asking for help is not easy for me, but with Peggy’s book I have an encourager whenever I need one – I just open the book.
Thank you Peggy for giving me permission to be human instead of super hero. Life is much more fun now.
Harriet Meyerson
My wife encouraged me to read this book, and it’s great! You know how men can’t even ask for directions? Peggy Collins’ book helped me realize that it’s not wimpy to ask for help–we can take independence to the extreme. If we aren’t doing it all, we have time to enjoy friends and family… and never be lost again.
Reading this book was like looking in the mirror. The steps given for making changes appear clear and attainable if one is persistent. I was impressed by the emphasis on the importance of relationships and community.