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Here is evcen more food for thought when it comes to your self help. Remember that the best self help books recommended on this website are the best and quickest way to make massive inroads in your life.

Best self help books tip - Willingness is the key

Willingness is the key.

While today is practice for tomorrow, sometimes habits and beliefs can have a powerful hold, and it can seem like they'll never go.

Willingness is the key. Are you willing to have what you desire? Are you willing to let go of your old way of doing or thinking? Some people ask "Are you willing to do whatever it takes to get what you want?" It's not that you end up having to do whatever it takes, but rather the quality of willingness that unlocks the door.

If you really like adventures, here's an interesting affirmation to try on for size: "I am willing that my present and future be totally unlike my past." Willingness is the key.  

Best self help books tip  - You can trust the universe

You can trust the universe. How do I know? I'll explain later.

For the moment, bear in mind that the universe has provided you with every breath of air you've breathed, ever drop of water you've drunk, and every meal you've eaten. Everything that you've brought into your life has been supplied by the universe.

You may argue that it's been supplied by God, Nature, or Your Unconscious etc. That's fine with me, call it what you like. The point is that you can trust this limitless supply. You can trust the universe.  

Best self help books tip - What the thinker thinks, the prover proves

What the thinker thinks, the prover proves. The human mind can be viewed as having two main functions: a thinker and a prover. The thinker can think anything. The prover has no such choice: whatever the thinker thinks, the prover arranges all incoming information to prove that thought to be true.

If a person believes they are stupid, their prover will sort and filter all incoming data to prove that belief to be true. If they believe they are clever, the prover will sort and filter incoming data to prove that belief true. If you believe you will always be poor, that life is unfair, and that people are basically rotten, your prover will find evidence of those beliefs. If you believe that that you can become fantastically wealthy, that life is a wonderful adventure, and that people are intrinsically good, your prover will create an iron clad case to prove those beliefs to be correct.

Of course, over time, the external reality of your life comes into line with whatever you've been thinking. So if you're unsure about what you believe, there's an easy way to find out: have a look around! Your external circumstances are the physical manifestation of your beliefs.

You might even like to ask yourself what beliefs it would be useful for you to have. What the thinker thinks, the prover proves.

Best self help books tip - You are more than you think you are

You are more than you think you are. There's an old saying, "The map is not the territory". A map of New York is not the city of New York , doesn't contain all the sounds, sights and smells that the city does (thank goodness!). The city is far bigger, richer and more vibrant than could ever be conveyed by a map.

A person's map of who they are (their self-concept) is not who they really are. You are far more powerful, capable and amazing than your map of yourself.

Just stop for a moment, and think about who you are, what your qualities are, your weaknesses and strengths. Then realise that there is more to you than you are aware of. You are more than you think you are.   

Best self help books tip - Nature always fills a vacuum

Nature always fills a vacuum, so it's important to make space for whatever you want to bring into your life. This applies not only to the more tangible physical things such as money, furniture and pies. It also applies to relationships, ideas and even emotions. If a person is full of bitterness and resentment, there isn't much room for joy and happiness.

For this reason, it can be useful to examine what you want to bring into your life, then ensure that there's room for it. If in your business you want to increase your client base, do you have the capacity to handle it? If you want to get some exciting new clothes for the summer, is there room in your closet?

Some people even go as far as creating a deliberate vacuum, such as giving money away to charity in order to create space for more money (we'll explore later why approaches such as this and others like it can be so powerful). For the meantime, just remember that nature always fills a vacuum.   

Best self help books tip - You can't do a don't

You can't do a don't. The human nervous system is 'goal-seeking' and will always tend to organise around a specific result or set of results (this is one reason why goal-setting can be a powerful tool). Another powerful tool is language, both for communicating with others and with ourselves. However, there is a quirk of neurology and the way that language interacts with the human nervous system, and knowing about this is essential.

Negatives are not processed by the nervous system in the same way that they are linguistically (eg. The command "Don't think of a purple hippopotamus" is difficult to obey.) You can't do a don't. It is therefore most effective to state any desired outcome or direction in the positive.

While you may have a desire to stop being poor, single or unhealthy, it's not helpful to express your desire in that way (ie. in terms of what you don't want). It is much more helpful to express your desire in terms of what you do want (Eg. "I want to be healthy, wealthy and in a happy relationship"). You can't do a don't.